by Kris Pitcher
Your success this year relies on many things. Throwing out some of our ideas about ourselves would be a good place to start. So this year, we're starting with perfection rejection.
The trouble with trying to be perfect is it sets us up for failure and constant disappointment. The first thing we need to let go of is our all or none thinking. When we work toward something, there needs to be a point where it's good enough. A project can't be perfect. Perfect isn't achievable.
Often, good enough is darn great. Being able to identify that middle ground helps us accomplish more things in the long run, and allows us to be happy with the outcome. A lot of times it's our all or none thinking that has us doing everything ourselves because no one else can do it good enough. Hey, if the dishwasher is loaded...it's loaded. It doesn't matter if it's exactly the way you'd do it.
Next we need to get rid of our critical eye. This goes for how we see ourselves, and how we see others. If you've ever been in a pack of women at the mall you know what I'm talking about. Let go of it. Focusing on imperfections is negative and feeds on unrealistic standards. Again, we're not perfect.
Allow yourself to have flaws. We all have flaws. Constantly pointing them out to ourselves or apologizing for them publicly just sends the wrong message. Focus instead on the things that you are happy with, the things you like about yourself.
Perfection rejection means letting go of the disappointment over every unmet unrealistic standard and goal. Knowing that you are not perfect will help you set realistic goals. As you reach your goal successfully you'll feel confident and happy about setting new goals.
Rest assured that this year you don't have to be perfect. You can give up the perfectionist things that have been holding you back and disappointing you. Give it up for perfection rejection!